Happy Friday fighters!
It feels good to be back writing this blog! I took a break on week 17 because I was sick with a bad cold virus and honestly couldn’t do much more than just lay around on the couch. So this blog might be a little longer than usual to catch you up up but I am going to try to be concise.
So let’s jump in!
On my last blog post, I wrote about how I had my first hard body image day in pregnancy. After that post, I got so many personal emails, messages, comments and other feedback from all of you, and it really helped shift my perspective.
The majority of what people were saying was to try to give myself the freedom to enjoy these changes, or at try to embrace them, and enjoy this beautiful miracle.
When I was having that hard day, I remember thinking to myself, “Ugh, I could reach out to someone or to the girls in my support group..but there is no way anyone is going to say anything that could make me feel better.”
But after reading all the feedback from you guys, I learned I was wrong.
Your support really did, not only make me feel better, but it helped shift my entire perception.
I have learned from that experience to not hesitate again to reach out for help when I need it most, and I thank you guys for teaching me that.
Since then, I honestly have really been working on shifting my perspective and it really has been amazing. I haven’t had one bad body image day that I can think of.
Lately, I have been so focused on being grateful for a healthy pregnancy, an amazing supportive family, network of friends and my amazing husband, and that has been it.
Even in other areas of my life, which those of you who know me well know I tend to be a pretty anxious person. But lately I have really tried to teach myself that right now, and probably for forever on, my number one priority is my baby, my health and the health of my husband and family. The rest is all small things in the big picture.
At times, I still grapple with that analogy and things can still feel pretty big, but they feel a lot smaller than before and that’s a big improvement for me.
Things like body, work, stress, future plans, people drama—just daily life-they just seem smaller and less significant in my world. And I like it that way.
I have more space now for the more important things. (Well for the most part, I still let some other things slip in too although I am working on not letting that happen as often).
So, talking of more important things, last week amongst some of our closest family and friends we found out we are having a baby boy!
It was the most unbelievable day and most unbelievable feeling in the world. Close to what I felt the day I got married.
Both my husband and I were really close to two of our grandfathers who have passed away.
My grandpa was named Robert and his grandpa was named James.
So we decided a few months ago, if we have a boy, he will be named Robert James, nicknamed R.J., in their honor.
This whole week I have been in awe of the fact that we get this once in a lifetime privilege to let their legacies and their honor live on through the next generation through our first son.
It’s such a beautiful thought to me. There is no space in my brain for Ed during those kinds of thoughts.
Really, I think the only time I thought about food was actually yesterday and today.
I was craving Nutella yesterday really really bad. Really bad! And we always have some in our home now (which is a huge recovery victory, since before, I could never keep such a “tempting” food in my home because my Ed voice would say I would eat it all and never forgive myself).
So after the gym and after dinner, I sat down with my Nutella and my spoon and I just enjoyed the life out of that thing. Every single bite was honestly amazing.
And this isn’t the first time I have done that. I am pretty good about letting my body have what it wants, even prior to pregnancy.
But this time it was a little different. It was less guilty. It was more free.
Also, side note, I even convinced my hubby to try it straight out of the jar, which he had never done before and I am pretty sure it changed his life forever because he liked it so much he finished the jar 🙂
Today, I felt the same way at lunch with my husband.
I got a grilled chicken salad, but for the first time in a long time, I let myself get cheese on it. That is something I wouldn’t have done before because I usually pick and choose my fun calories and I would rather have a chocolate bar later.
But today, I let myself have it. And again, for whatever reason, pregnancy has allowed me to do that in a more free way than ever before. And it was amazing.
I told my husband Brock today at lunch, “I am not sure why I feel more free during pregnancy to allow myself to enjoy things, but I think I am just going to embrace it.”
I know after I have R.J. things will probably go back to the way they were-in terms of not getting extras all the time on salads , and maybe not eating half the Nutella at one time-and that is totally ok with me because it has balance.
Even now, I find myself having pretty good balance. It just has more freedom attached to it.
I eat what I want, and I stop when I am full.
But, I also am just kind of ready to embrace the freedom my pregnancy has given me so far.
It has actually been really fun and exciting. I think I will miss it once it is gone. So I am going to really try to enjoy it now.
And my bump is my favorite part because it is this constant reminder that my body, this body that I worked so so so hard, for so long to get strong again, is growing this precious life, and for some reason, I am just so proud of that.
Until next week fighters…Hello life.