Day 112: The Kindness of Strangers

Good afternoon all,

I was at the gym this afternoon and at first I felt so strong and energized, that I decided to run a little bit before I met with my trainer, Kim.

Running turned into not being such a great idea because when it came time for me to workout with her, I was low on energy and I felt dizzy quickly.

I normally don’t do cardio before I see Kim, and if I do, I only walk.

But today, for whatever reason, I had it within me to do a little more.

I didn’t over work my body and I didn’t let Ed get to me-I stopped after 20 minutes and I was proud of myself for that.

But as Kim and I were working out, she kept giving me breaks in between my exercises and she was not pushing me as hard as I know she could have, had I not ran before.

This frustrated me. It was my fault that I wasn’t able to work out as hard as I could, and when I let myself down, the only person I can blame is myself.

I just started telling her how angry I was at myself that I couldn’t do more with her today, when a stranger at the gym walked up to us.

He looked at us and said, “I just need to tell you both how incredible you are. You (meaning me), have made such great progress since you’ve been here and it really shows.”

Wow. Here I was upset that I couldn’t get in an extra round of pushups, and this man decided to tell me how he has  seen me progress.

The best part about what he said is that he didn’t say, “You’re so skinny, how did you do that?”.

He said my progress has greatly shown, meaning that my body is looking physically stronger and healthier than it used to be, and that he sees how much more I am capable of doing now.

The kindness of that man really changed my attitude.

There I was upset over a tiny bump in my day, and once that man said that to me, it made me realize that he is right-I have made tremendous progress.

When I first started with Kim, all I was allowed to do was stretch, because of how little I was eating.

But now that I giving myself the nutrients that I need, I am able to strengthen my body and my muscles, and it felt so good that someone else actually noticed that.

That man had no idea I am in recovery for an eating disorder-all he saw was someone who was working towards a goal and making progress.

I loved that he used the word progress. Progress means something that is on its way; it means something that is going to continue; something that is no where near the end.

I don’t care anymore that I wasn’t able to do as much with Kim today as I normally would have. I really don’t.

I care that I’ve made progress, and lots of it for that matter.

It’s a beautiful thing that I  am able to embrace the kind words of this stranger who I never even met.

His words really made me proud of the progress that I’ve made with my recovery, with my health and with accepting my body as a whole as I get it to be healthier.

I like the word progress,  I want to use it more.

I am a person in progress.

I am in progress with my recovery, with my relationship with Ed, with my relationship with myself, and mostly, I am in progress in creating the free and beautiful life that I deserve for myself without Ed.

I am in progress and I am moving forward with another day of recovery and with another day of saying, “hello life.”



4 thoughts on “Day 112: The Kindness of Strangers

  1. You are making wonderful progress in so many ways! I’m thrilled you were able to step outside yourself and see what others see in you as opposed to the mirror ED has created for you.

  2. Shira, I am do glad that you can see how you are progressing in so many areas in your life and embracing that with self compassion! That man did what I call “a random act of kindness” and always makes me pause to remember how good that makes me feel and how I always want to pass that on to make someone else feel that way too. Just kind of an added bonus! Keep up you’re wonderful progress!! Xoxo

  3. I work with a personal trainer, or rather, I did. I’m still contractually connected but everything was put on hold (frozen) a few months ago. I had to come clean to him and also asked him that when I do return if I can be more accountable to the total amount of exercise I am doing each week, not just my sessions with him. I really need accountability in order to stay healthy because I’ll just do more and more and more.

    Having your efforts rewarded with words of encouragement and admiration always feels so good. I’m glad you are working with someone who is aware of that instead of just thinking about the latest workout. That means you have a good trainer, he appears to think of you as a whole human being.

    And yeah, progress. I’ve said it before but I’ll say it again (because I love this saying): Inch by inch everything is a cinch, yard by yard everything is hard. 🙂

    You are inching toward total recovery, and so am I. We can do this, we are doing this. Go us!

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s