I went to sleep last night feeling sad and broken.
After what I felt was a day of successful recovery, I had someone who I barely know message me to let me know that they don’t think I have an eating disorder. For whatever reason, this comment really threw me off.
Who is this person to tell me about my struggles? Who is this person to try to take away my pain and tell me that this journey–that this fight for my life–is not really happening? It is times like this, where I start to get doubtful about myself, that I need to remind myself of why I am here and why I am writing this blog: and that is for my life, and what others think of that cannot be a priority to me.
This morning, I wake up writing to you all knowing that I need to go visit a doctor today for a full physical exam and I know he will be asking me lots of questions about my eating disorder; but most importantly and most frightening, I know he will weigh me.
Of course, I have already made the decision to do a “back weigh,” where I turn backwards when I get weighed so I do not see the number. But to be so honest, I truthfully do not know where I am going to gather the inner strength to stand backward and not turn around and see what that scale says.
This is where I need to remind myself that I am more than a number .
But I know that no matter how badly I feel the need to turn around and look at that number, I know I will not do it and I will keep my commitment and promise to myself. Because even though I am fearful and unsure at the moment, there is one thing about me that always holds true, and that is that I never give up-and I sure as hell am not going to start now.
I have made the choice to be scale free for a year and that is what I will do.
How will I do it? I do not know.
Right now, I feel hopeless and extremely alone in this fight for freedom.
The strength that I felt I had the past few days seems to be so far away from me right now. I am trying to sit here and close my eyes and tell myself that I am strong and that I can do this, (by this i mean my recovery) but I just cannot seem to find it.
I feel broken, I feel lost, and I feel drained- but I know that I need to pick myself up off this bed and go face the world today head on.
I need to remind myself of the reason I am on this path to recovery in the first place, and that reason is called life.
So,here is what I am going to do:
I am going to get myself together, sit up straight, and tell myself over and over again “hello life, hello life, hello life.”
10 thoughts on “Day 10: Drained”
Sorry to say this, but that person sounds like a total jerk!!!! You are totally right–this is YOUR body and you know yourself and your struggles better than anyone. Remember that you’re doing this for yourself and you don’t need some asshole telling you otherwise.
Good luck today at the doctor.
You are so right. Thank you so much for your suppprt! And just want to let you know I followed ur blog through your jouney.and u are absolutely amazing and an inspiration.
Obviously you know how important it is to me to talk about what I went through, so I am very excited and proud to see that you’re bravely doing the same thing. You could really help a lot of people if you keep writing.
What other people think of us in non of our business. That’s what I learned as a former people pleaser. Focus on what’s within, it is a wonderful gift you are giving those of us who want to share your journey and the others, well there’s no need to listen to them. Good luck with your appt today and dig deep for that strength to stand tall and BACKWARDS!
Keep on keeping on!
Thank u mom i did stand tall.and backwards! Love u
Hater’s gonna hate. You can only control what YOU do. All the best of luck today for your appointment! You can do it!!
Thank u so much! Because of.all this incredible support including ur words i.was able to go through with the back weigh. Thank u !
Stay strong, you cannot let other ignorant people throw you off, make you feel weak, or sad. You know who you are and no one else has the right to diagnose or tell who how you should or shouldn’t feel. You’re doing this for yourself and that’s all that maters ! I’m proud of you and so happy for your decision to continue and go through with this no matter what. You’re helping yourself and you’re inspiring others. You’re amazing for Doing what you’re doing. Keep your head up, your thoughts positive, youre the best !
Ur the best and ur support carried me today. Thank u i love u
Amazing abiality of sharing.